How to get your kids to declutter, tidy up and let go of old toys
Our guest expert, Scandi lifestyle specialist Catharina Björkman, reveals how to get kids involved in the New Year declutter and keep a tidier home for good
Hands up, how many times have you struggled to get your kids to tidy up or get rid of toys that are destined for the charity shop? If you struggle as much as we do, this guide is for you. We spoke to Catharina Björkman, lifestyle expert at Contura, to discover the secret to getting your kids involved in the decluttering process and how to form lifelong habits that help them keep their own spaces tidy (we can dream, can’t we?).
Why is decluttering so important?
When introducing your children to decluttering, it’s so important to make sure they understand why we undertake this process. Though it might not be their main source of motivation for carrying out the task in the beginning, it will help to sustain the habit as they grow older.
A fun way to teach young children about the benefits of keeping a tidy space is with a personalised game of 'spot the difference', which uses images of a room in your home before and after a clear out. As they spot the series of changes, you can explain why the decluttered space not only looks nicer, but is also better for wellbeing.
On a basic level, decluttering helps to create a visually calmer interior. However, its benefits run so much deeper than just surface-level aesthetics. A clutter-free space helps ensure that your home fulfils its purpose as a restorative escape from the outside world.
Excessive clutter has been linked to heightening anxiety levels, disrupting focus, and reducing sleep quality. More practically, a decluttered home is also easier to clean, which then reduces the build-up of dirt and dust, making it a more hygienic and safe space too.
What can decluttering teach children?
The positive outcomes of decluttering need not be limited only to your home and those within it. Remind your children that, just because something is not of use to you, it doesn’t mean it’s totally useless!
Let your unwanted items bring joy to others by donating them to charity shops, passing them onto friends or family, or, if totally worn out, recycling them. Framing decluttering as an act of kindness or generosity rather than disposal will also soften the concept for your children.
The act of giving not only benefits the recipient. Doing good deeds for others has been found to increase the body's production of endorphins - also known as the happy hormones - leading to improvements in mood (aka the 'helper's high'). Similarly, reusing, rehoming and recycling items is also a far more environmentally friendly approach to a clear out.
How is it best to start the decluttering process with children?
Approaching decluttering with a positive attitude yourself will make it far more likely that your kids will too. Make it a task you look forward to; play some of your favourite songs, pop on a great podcast, or even turn it into a workout - whatever gets you (and them) energised!
When they are old enough to get actively involved, ease your little ones into the process by choosing a room they’re less familiar with. This will help introduce your child to the fundamentals of decluttering and the satisfaction that can be found in the process while reducing the risk of making it a negative experience, given that they are unlikely to hold strong emotional attachments to objects within this space.
Start by designating a small, manageable task to tackle alongside you. For example, if clearing out a home office space, ask them to sort their way through a pot of your pens, highlighters and pencils. Break the task down into smaller chunks by asking them to check each item of stationery works by drawing on a piece of paper and then, once this is done, to arrange them in different colour categories.
It is important to make the experience as positive as possible, so don't worry too much if they get sidetracked by their colourful doodles, just gently encourage them to carry on working their way through those left in the pot.
While they do this, you can talk through your own decluttering process, safe in the knowledge that your little helper is busy in the background.
Are there any methods for encouraging children to declutter their space?
When your little ones are well practiced with the process of decluttering, move them onto helping you weed through more familiar spaces. Given that your child will likely hold stronger emotional attachments to objects in these spaces, it is important that this is approached with care and caution.
Begin by opting for a 'one in, one out' policy. For example, if gifted a new jumper at a birthday or Christmas time, use it as a chance to ask them to donate an older, outgrown item of knitwear. It will also get them slowly used to the practice of evaluating an object's value and familiarise them with the idea that our belongings should be cherished and are finite in numbers, not unimportant and never-ending.
Eventually, you can ask them to tackle more personal areas such as sorting through their wardrobe in the bedroom or the playroom's toy stash. Be sure to ask them lots of questions to help them to feel in control. When coming up against an obvious ‘get-rid’ item, guide them towards the logical outcome by asking leading questions such as, ‘do these shoes still fit’ or ‘when did you last play with this toy’ to help them understand the reasoning behind giving it away.
How do you encourage a child to make a decision if they are unsure they want to give something away?
If your child adamantly disagrees that something should go or if there is an object that they are uncertain about, do not force them into a decision – it is okay to not be sure!
Instead, set aside a dedicated box in which you can place such belongings and can come back to after a week or on your next clear out. Ask yourself (and your child) if this object has been of use (played with, used, worn, etc) since it was first placed in the box; if yes, perhaps it is best to hold onto it for a little longer but, if the answer is no, it's likely time to give it up.
What is the best time-frame for decluttering with children?
Make sure that you block out specific times to declutter. Think 'little-and-often' and opt for short bursts tackling one room at a time rather than making it a random, never-ending, and overwhelming task. This structure reduces the risk of procrastination, boosts productivity, and will also help your child to stay focused and motivated.
Similarly, keep in mind your children's schedule and energy levels. They are likely to be tired after school, or too distracted or excited before a play date, so choose time slots where they are likely to be calmer, rested, and able to focus.
How can you ensure your decluttering efforts last?
Teach your children to incorporate decluttering habits into their daily routines. This will help ensure that they don’t undo any of the progress made previously, to make future decluttering sessions quicker, and make the need for them less frequent. Be sure to have plenty of storage to help them with this.
Invest in a shelves, drawers or cabinets low enough that your child can access them independently in their bedroom or playroom. Label each one according to what is to be stored within and encourage your child’s early investment in the process by asking them to help choose what should go where.
Where relevant, add smaller storage units within larger ones. For example, use open-top boxes to divide underwear and socks in wardrobes and add trays with separate compartments for pens, pencils and paper to arts and crafts drawers.
And don’t forget about floor and wall spaces - under-bed boxes are great for storing bulkier items such as soft toys, and shelves are fantastic for showcasing items such as framed certificates or photos, which might otherwise be lost in a drawer somewhere!
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